I am starting to loose faith in peoples capacities of comprehension. Like the ability to comprehend the radical concept how they treat people when times get tough. Everyone knows how to treat people when things are good, but how many people endeavour to remain decent when things get shitty. The measure of a person in my humble opinion is not how good of a friend, lover, or family member you can be when the weather is fair, but when the climate is nasty, how well can a person hold
their composure when they feel terrible. It is the human excuse time and time again to glorify the
fair weather days, and excuse the misdeeds of the bad days and off moments. But when can people take
responsibility for themselves when they are at
their worst? We should remember most
closely the good days, but examine and take
responsibility for the bad ones.
I believe people have it backwards. And what this backwards thinking lends itself to is people not correcting some of
their undesirable attributes. Because they have no
accountability to themselves or to others of how they act and treat others when they are in a bad mentality.
And this realization of mine leaves me feeling very alone.
Unlike many, but similar to a few, I examine the struggles of people, and my own very
closely. And i keep adapting my ways to account for the holes i see in human communication. And the more i think get better, the further away from
improvements i feel i slide.
And this adverse reaction makes me feel more alone.
I'm am
beginning to think that in human struggles, whether the conflict of nations and churches, or the
quarrels of lovers and
friends, uncomfortable communications renders people myopic and crude. It seems like only one out of thirty encounters yields a honest and quick remedy of disclosure and reconciliation. But most people succumb to quick and crude reactions to defend bad behavior.
This reality leaves me feeling alone.
When i know i am wrong, and trust me i have a vast understanding of what i am capable in being wrong, I am true to myself, and I make it easy for another to feel validated. Because no matter how abstract i can be, and how judiciously i can argue a point or defend myself, i have a
infallible sense of what is wrong of my actions. And people
receive this from me. It is my unspoken gift to those I share words with to
receive a clear acknowledgment of validation. That they are getting a person undiluted by my own motives. But
I'm afraid when it comes to
receiving this from others, the golden rule tends to vanish.
I am trying to to create myself in the likeliness of what i desire. Fair,
sensible, honest, and open. I am trying to mitigate myself and others against the pitfalls of
opposite sided perspectives. I am trying to show myself the nature of my own worst qualities and the misgivings in others to people so that they and I can heal, and learn how to get right with each other. But the more i study and tweak i just seem to get more uglier results.
Is it that people are unwilling to drop their egos? Or is it that we sometimes have uncompromisable defense mechanisms that cannot be shut down in order to take a better look at ourselves? Perhaps the science of
introspecting is too vast, and renders people hostile to its meanings.
I have not yet had a confrontation where anyone but myself can pull themselves out of
their ass to see reason. This blind defense is agonizing for me to watch. Its like people are forever shackled to
their perceptions and this
unbudging method creates a psychotic
dysfunction that defies every plea and adjustment for reason.
These conclusions make me feel alone.
I realize that in the end this reflection is all a bunch of nothing. Like a seed that cannot sprout roots remains
unfruitful, these concepts are lost to the
unthoughtful, and scoffed at by the
oversimplifiers.
But feeling more and more alone especially when you feel you
shouldn't have to leaves me feeling abandoned.
I
don't want be be alone or feel abandoned.
Either I am going to have to back to the drawing board with myself, or I am going to have to learn to have more
patience in the midst of these reflections.